Alright, so my last post/ poem was a bit deep and dark right? I think making a post in the middle of a breakdown and tear session isn’t always a good idea. So I apologize! Although, looking at it today I am pretty sure I pegged it on the head of how I’ve been feeling. Just so down and dark lately, but I’m already getting better I promise.
My life guys has just been way to up and down lately and it was getting to me. I needed that breakdown more than I knew though because I feel better and am hopeful now. I’m very blessed in this life and I have to keep remembering that; never forget.
Being overwhelmed can kick your ass!
So back in September I moved into a more affordable house right? I went from $675/mthly to $450/mthly because I knew I was in over my head. I thought for sure I’d be able to swing this one. Even though it was just a 2 bedroom and super small I was going to make it work. Well, I was wrong! By the time I added up all my bills I was no better off with what my job pays me. Rent, lights, water, phone bill, car payment, car insurance, gas to/from work & kids school, cable (no net bc it was in the middle of nowhere and net wouldn’t pick up). My bills were over $800 a month!!! Single mom of 4 on a minimum wage job in Alabama???? Not ‘effin happening!
I got WAY in over my head for moving out of government housing back in 2013. I wanted to get out and not been seen as a “welfare mom”. Let me tell you that is so damm ridiculous! Just because someone lives in a government house does not mean they are on welfare or pieces of shit! It means they are providing the best possible home for their family that they can. And that is what I am about to do.
I’ll admit it. I cannot make it right now outside of them. My bills are just too much for me. And I want to do it on my own so I am going to do what I have to do. I’ve been overloaded and wondering what I’m going to do so that I can pay all my bills and it just couldn’t happen. So I’ve settled my losses and scores and I’ll be moving into my new apartment this weekend while the kids are with J.
I have no choice! This situation is mostly what has me feeling like a failure and putting me into a depression and I have to pull up out of it. Financial help doesn’t always come from J so I have to do what I can. The kids loved their life the last time we did this and I’m hoping to give them the same kind of happiness again.
I’ll be able to afford the new rent with NO PROBLEMS! And it opens a lot of doors for us now. I can work a lil less hours to spend more time at home with the kids, I can home school them like I’ve been wanting too, I can focus back on my photography again, and I can get back to living instead of feeling like a drone! We need this!
I want all of you single moms to understand something. Do not let the “projects” scare you or make you feel lesser than! Its not where your home is; its where you make your home! Be proud and make your life better because you have the option too. Still work and spend more time with your kids. Save a ton of money so you can one day buy your own home! Be proud that your providing your kids a place ON YOUR OWN and that its within your means! You got this! I’ll post more soon.
{Single Mom Talk}